A Perfect Mom
A Perfect Mom.
What kind of picture pops up in your head when you hear that
phrase? When it’s 4pm and I’m still in my pajamas, I look around my painfully
disorganized house, with a sink full of unwashed dishes, toys still strewn all
over the floor, and about a hundred piles of baby clothes that have been
sitting out for about a week when I got the brilliant idea that I would
organize my house with two kids under four and a husband who is gone to another
country for two weeks, I have a pretty clear picture of what DOESN’T pop into
my mind when I think of “perfect mom” status.
… Or maybe when I’ve heard “why?” for the hundredth time in
thirty minutes and I snap at my son for no other reason than I’m tired and
overwhelmed by the fact that I’ve done nothing but answer his questions all day
and maybe change a couple diapers.
… Or maybe when I take my three-year-old son out to play in
the rain and I’m scolded over and over by countless well-meaning Chinese
grandparents who are positive I’m unaware that my son is wet (In the rain. Imagine!).
… Or maybe when my baby is screaming and won’t stop, and I
have to walk away, just so I don’t scream back.
… Or like a couple weeks ago on Mother’s Day (you know, the
day you’re supposed to celebrate how awesome you are?), when I left my house a
complete disaster, stressed to the max with a teething baby who just couldn’t
understand my need to feel pretty and in control on Mother’s Day, walked into
our International Fellowship with a smile on my face like every other mom who
has it all together, and then hid somewhere near the back so no-one would see
the baby-puke all over the front of my painstakingly chosen dress.
Worship started, and I closed my eyes, asking HIM to meet me
where I was—baby puke and all. I raised
my hands in surrender, out of pure desperation for Him to take my mess and
trade it for something better… to make ME better. I opened my eyes for a split
second, to make sure my three-year-old hadn’t run on stage or decided to strip
naked or something (these things happen). I was taken aback. My son had his eyes
intently on me, watching my every move, and was mirroring them. He was trying
his best to sing along, with his hands lifted high in the air. I choked back
tears.
I have no idea what was going on in his head. I have no idea
if he was thinking about God, or worship, or the puke on my dress. But he was
watching me. He was watching me fall, he was watching me cry, and HE WAS
WATCHING ME SURRENDER. And though the word surrender may mean nothing to him
yet, before he understands the word, he will understand the act.
I don’t know that I’ll ever be a perfect mom. But maybe
that’s not what my kids need. Maybe they just need one that apologizes when she
messes up. One that takes a deep breath and walks back into the room after
hiding in the bathroom and locking the door when she can’t take one more
second. One that keeps learning… keeps hoping… keeps dreaming… keeps surrendering.
Maybe they don’t need a perfect mom… just a mom who is on a
journey, just like them… only a few steps ahead.
That was well written. Touched my heart.
ReplyDeleteThanks Mom and Dad
DeleteThis is so powerful! :) well done Deanna!
ReplyDeleteThanks Christian!
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